5 Ways to Thrive as a Breadwinning Mom

5 Ways to Thrive as a Breadwinning MomDid you know that moms are the sole or primary breadwinner in four out of 10 households with children? According to the Pew Research Center, women make up almost half (47%) of the U.S. labor force today, and the employment rate of married mothers with children has increased from 37% in 1968 to 65% in 2011.

The role of women in the workplace and home is constantly changing and the old tradition of mom stays home is being challenged economically and socially every day. Continue reading

Where Did the Balance Go?

 

Balance is a tricky one to describe. I think we often confuse being a working mom  and balancing  it all flawlessly. The “it all” part becomes perfectly aligned and perfectly balanced at the same time. Not so.

How many of you can raise your hand and say all is in balance, all the time. I suppose it’s possible for some and if you are one holding that secret, bottle up the magic potion and sell it on eBay!

Finding balance is not about the perfect alignment of the kids, work and home. Once in a while things get thrown off, really thrown off. Continue reading

New Daycare Research And Your Child’s Health

I came across a short article in the print version of Parenting magazine titled, “Guilt-Free Chilcare” and thought I’d share new research findings on daycare. According to this piece  from their June 2011 edition, new research revealed that daycare toddlers tend to suffer more respiratory and ear infections than toddlers who are not exposed to the daycare environment. That is not new to me or my hubby!

Our little guy started daycare at four months old and at the time, a large daycare facility was the option we chose. He was sick all the time”¦ colds, ear infections, lung/respiratory issues. I missed work just about once a month and up to one week at a time.

People would reassure me that all the illness was building his immune system and it would subside around three or four years old. I would smile and think that wasn’t really helping in that moment, but a silver lining was possibly on the horizon. Continue reading

You Are Not Alone

I dropped off my little boo last Monday at daycare and she cried. Usually she is happy to go which makes it less stressful for me. That day, she wanted mommy.

I drove away feeling upset. I felt alone in my car and a little lost. I pulled up to a stoplight on the way to work and noticed a mom in her car with an empty car seat in the back.

She looked lonely too as she stared off into space until the light changed.  We drove our separate ways. I couldn’t help but wonder what she was thinking about.

It felt lonely driving into work that day. I missed my little boo and I started wondering why I was working in the first place. Continue reading

The Great Balance Debate

Is it balancing? Is it juggling? Is it multi-tasking? Is it about focusing? Or is it just semantics?

I wrote about each term over the last year.   “Work-life-balance” has an interesting history itself. Simply put, it means that a worker has enough time to complete his or her commitments at work and enough time to also have a life outside of the office. With enough for both, you achieve “balance”.  I’m sure some people may beg to differ.

Some of the first enforceable employment laws in the United States were enacted in 1874 (in Massachusetts). Can you believe it was a law that limited women and children from working too much in one week? Don’t gasp yet because that limit was to 10 hours per day! Now you can gasp. Continue reading

Kick The Guilt Habit

Most working moms will tell you they have felt guilty at one time or another about managing their home as well as a career. Some moms navigate more demanding jobs while others may have a flexible work environment. Either way, time at work is time away from home.

Have you ever found yourself in an endless guilt whirlwind? For example, you are commuting along after dropping off your precious little one at daycare and you can’t help but think of all the things you are doing wrong as a working mom. The guilt habit is a tough one to break.

We often find ourselves in a cycle of negative thoughts and feelings about our careers and our choices made as working moms. Many times we are left frazzled and stressed. Guilt can bring a mom down mentally, physically and emotionally. Continue reading

You Know You’re A Working Mom When…

  • You wake up before the crack of dawn to squeeze in the workout, a cup of coffee, breakfast and rush to get ready before the kiddies wake up.
  • You have just a few sets of work clothes in the weekly rotation because trying to be cute or creative just will not happen in the morning.
  • You are a bit relieved after daycare drop-off because you know you’ll get a bit time to relax during the commute of all things and before the work day starts rolling.
  • You pass on the free cocktails and appetizers after work since you’d rather go home to juice and cracker snacks with your little one.
  • You see the cast of Yo Gabba Gabba when you look around the conference room during an all-hands meeting instead of seeing your co-workers.
  • You wear your hair in a bun for the third day in the row to work and wonder if other people can tell how dirty it is. Who has the time to wash it?
  • You look forward to payday only to use your hard earned money to pay the two daycare bills that are soon to follow.
  • You would rather blog about being a working mom than do your work.
  • You pass on travel if you can because you’d rather be home with the kids.
  • You try to get home as fast as you can after that long day to kiss, hug and love your kiddies because within 12 hours the drill starts over again.

You take a moment to reflect on how lucky you are…juggling it all is tough but you manage to enjoy the special moments, let the stressful ones pass and allow yourself to relax a bit now and then.

Got Guilt?

I do. I think as working moms most of us can say at one time or another we have felt guilty about leaving our little ones while we work. Some of us have more demanding careers while others have the “kick-back” job. Either way, time at work is time away from home.

I had a co-worker tell me she left her three little ones while they were sleeping this morning in order to get to work by 7:30 am. With a big sigh, she noted how tough it is to leave them each day. So what is a working mom to do? Put it in perspective.

1) Acknowledge It Continue reading